Shelter in Place Capital Campaign

VIsion for the future


The Family Shelter seeks to create a new shelter, a facility of service and hope, for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. The facility includes a 24-bed emergency shelter, children’s play room, kitchen, dining room and an administration/counseling/advocacy area. 

Our vision offers a collaborative approach in working with survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. A bigger space will give us opportunity for resources and on-site services in areas like substance abuse and parenting support. Accessibility to programs under one roof will offer a wide range of support available to all clients.

The Family Shelter has been privileged to serve Carter, Love, Johnston, and Murray counties for nearly thirty years. It has been our mission, purpose, and passion to answer the calls for help, assist victims in finding a refuge from risk of death and serious physical injury, provide food and shelter, legal and medical support, and help survivors to become financially stable and visibly strong. We now look to our community to join with us to continue the mission.

Together we can create a safe place for survivors. We can let them know that there is a Shelter in Place…. of Violence. 


Key Facts



  • 1 in 3 people have been affected by Domestic Violence in the US
  • Oklahoma ranks 6th in the nation for people affected by IPV (Intimate Partner Violence)
  • The Family Shelter is the state identified shelter for Carter, Love, Johnston and Murray counties


  • The Family Shelter has kicked off the quiet phase of the $1 million dollar capital campaign
  • Phase I of renovations (the Administration, Counseling and Advocacy wing) are complete  and operating
  • Capital Campaign leadership is in place to complete the funding goal


  • Finalize construction to the new facility
  • We would renovate the shelter wing to house: 24-bed shelter (can house 39) complete with kitchen and dining, common room, children's play area and confidential office space
  • Accessibility to main office and programs


Creating a Facility to Ensure That....

There Is shelter in place of violence

Close your eyes and picture this…. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence (e.g. beating, burning, strangling) by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Domestic violence does not discriminate. 3 out of the 4 of you reading this right now, know someone who is affected by domestic violence. Most cases are never reported to police.

Domestic violence is dangerous and destructive to those who are directly or indirectly affected by it. Oklahoma ranks 6th in the nation in terms of the number of those experiencing intimate partner violence. The need to aid these victims is real and the vision is clear. For Carter, Love, Johnston and Murray counties the Family Shelter offers that aid.

Since 1991, the Family Shelter of Southern Oklahoma has extended its arms to serve victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. Each year, over 400 victims seek refuge, comfort and healing through our 24-hour crisis line, emergency shelter, advocacy services and comprehensive programs on how to escape violence, find safety and move forward with their lives. After almost 30 years of service, the Family Shelter has established a history of successful, life-saving programs designed to help break the cycle of abuse.

But the demand for help is increasing! These survivors deserve to live a life free from violence, and in a place that offers professional support and the therapeutic environment needed to heal.

Learn More

According to the Oklahoma Domestic Violence Fatality Review Board 2017 Report- District 20 (Carter, Johnston, Love, Marshall and Murray counties) ranks 6th in the state of domestic violence homicide victims. The Family Shelter is a safe haven for those fleeing violence.

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Meet Our Team

Board of directors

Carrie Pfrehm, Chair

Scott Callender, Vice Chair

Brent Harness, Treasurer

Kimberly Lynch, Secretary

Richard Barker

Joy McDaniel

Trevor Potts

Regina Benson

Aaron Spells

Sister Carolyn Stoutz

family shelter staff

Kathy Manning, Executive Director

Phyllis Ellison, Shelter Manager

Hillary Carmona, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Dee Dee Hunter, Victim Advocate

Stacey Rose, Victim Advocate

Lena Mosley, Child Advocate

Liz Mai, Shelter Advocate

Nita Clark, Administrative Assistant

Esther Rush, Resident Advocate

Dinisha Shonibare, Resident Advocate

Terra Byers, Resident Advocate

Melissa Wood, Resident Advocate

campaign committee

Joy McDaniel

Brent Harness

Carrie Pfrehm

Kimberly Lynch

Kathy Manning

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